Betrayal is a part of life. There is no-one who lives a full life that will get through it without another human being betraying them at one point or another.
That is life.
What you do with the information is what counts. Not the betrayal itself.
There have been countless situations throughout history where business partners, lovers, friends and acquaintances have deliberately hurt or selfishly put their own needs above the needs of the betrayed.
It will hurt. It will feel like a loss. Especially if it is someone who is close to you as it almost always is.
But, you must either a. let them go and never speak to them again or b. keep them at arms length and remember that they are a liar and untrustworthy.
Sometimes, it is better to know thy enemy and keep eyes on them.
Other times it is best to let them go completely.
The key factor in whether or whether or not the relationship is salvageable is if the betrayer OWNS how they made a mistake, and will do whatever it takes to reconcile with you.
If they do not care? They just did you a favor. Cut them off and never speak to them again, or keep them at arms distance and utilize them for whatever value they have to offer you. Beyond that, they have proven through their actions that they are untrustworthy.
If you cannot trust and believe that the person in question has your best interests at heart… you don’t have a relationship. You have an enemy. You have someone who is willingly hurting you and does not care that you are hurt.
That is not a friend, nor is it a business partner, nor is it a lover, nor it is someone that you should allow to continue to hurt you.
Don’t take revenge on them directly.
The best revenge is a life well lived without them.
Every person who has been dishonest and horrible to me in my past, I have soared past them… they are right where I left them.
I am flying hundreds of feet up in the sky looking down in pity at them.
It’s true, ex girlfriends that cheated, old high school bullies, old back stabbing friends, business partners… If they are willing to hurt someone and not care?
They don’t wind up in a good place.
They usually wind up living a very sad, mediocre existence… they get older, fatter, lazier, more bitter.
There’s nothing I can do for them.
There is nothing I will do for them.
It doesn’t feel good, it feels sad when I see them.
I don’t know why these people exist… I don’t have the answer.
But what I do know is this… For every one of those people who dropped out of my life… My life over time got substantially better because in some way… I knew they already were untrustworthy. I felt anchored down by the weight of their relationships with me.
This is not to say that it’s ONLY the untrustworthy ones that didn’t evolve… many many people don’t ever evolve. But the ones who have betrayed me… I take special note of and remind myself whenever I stumble… and miss one of these snakes lurking in the grass.
Cut them off.
Do not indulge in another day of a fake relationship.
There are many people out there who would LOVE to have a real meaningful one with you.