If you are a young man… there are three unfortunate truths that you’re going to have to accept… Now.
The longer you put off accepting these cold, hard, facts… the longer you put off your happy days. Your days that are filled with love(love for self, love for others, others love you in that order), happiness, certainty, relationships, kindness, and contribution.
These ‘happy days’ are warm, nostalgic, utopian times…
We Must EARN, our happiness. We Must EARN, our freedom. We Must Master Ourselves.
Through Chaos, I Create Order.
Three Horrible Facts For Millennial Men In America:
Fact 1: You Probably Didn’t Have A Dad Who Showed You Anything Useful.
Fact 2: Nobody Is Coming To Save You.
Fact 3: The World Hates Powerless Men More Than Anything
Unfortunately, most of the baby boomers who loudly complain about us millenials… actually wound up raising us.
All of our issues….
Abandonment of traditional masculine skills, values, and institutions.
Abandonment and destruction of the nuclear family.
Addiction to social media and electronics.
Weakened bodies from poor nutrition, vaccines, tap water, fluoride, and other specific bio-chemical attacks on our body.
Millennial boys have been heavily drugged with ADHD medications, anti psychotics, and labelled as having a psychiatric issue.
We weren’t socialized properly, we weren’t taught to be strong, we weren’t taught to be men, we were taught to supplicate to women (which they hate), we were taught to abandon traditional values, we grew up needing and craving a strong masculine role model… but got electronics, the internet, and wound up raising ourselves.
Accept that you must, “Take Life By The Throat, Before It Takes Yours.” –Gary Vaynerchuk.
Life is best lived, working hard. Every day. Don’t stop moving forward. You started at a massive disadvantage… But I am here to help you.
I dug myself out of the hellish nightmare I lived in for years, and years, and years, and years, and years, and years.
LISTEN TO ME. APPLY THIS STUFF. SKIP THE PAIN. SKIP THE SUFFERING. USE MY LESSONS SO MY SUFFERING WILL HAVE BEEN WORTH SOMETHING.
Twelve Rules To Live By In Your Twenty’s.
1. School Is Useless: Fire Your Teacher.
2. Jobs Are Useless: Fire Your Boss. Hire Yourself.
3. Make 10,000 Per Month Quickly
4. Deadly Meat Sack: Learn To Get Sexy and Defend Yourself
5. Learn To Cold Approach Women/Business Prospects
6. Optimize Your Health and Sleep
7. Organize Your World Down To The Tip
8. Eat Red Pills Regularly.
8. Dive Into Self Help.
9. Write Everything Down.
10. Philanthropy: Giving Is Living
11. Dress British, and Think Yiddish
Brief Forward From Brad Holiday 2-12-18 (over a month old)
From ages 11-28 I lived in hell.
Deep dishes of despair were dealt to me on the daily.
Anger riddled atrocities visited my mind annually.
It was a dark tundra with no sunlight, no flashlight, and enemies coming out of the woodwork to confuse me and kick me when I slept.
I got stabbed in the back, cheated on, betrayed, lied to, intentionally misled and had just about every misfortune imaginable happen to me short of being killed.
I made just about every mistake imaginable and paid the price with wasted time, lost relationships, and an overall sense of despair and unhappiness.
When I was 27 things began to change… I was living in Harlem in a subletted studio, I had just gotten my guts ripped out and stomped on by my ex-girlfriend who had secretly cheated on me and broke it to me. I was making youtube videos for my original channel, and managing clients for 1GirlDaily which is my online dating messaging service. I had begun doing affiliate marketing for Enhanced Athlete and in August I got my third check which was the largest check I had ever seen from affiliate marketing. I at the time was only making between 3-4k per month and having that check completely enabled me to be free and invest in my business.
That check, and that unbelievably heart crushing moment set me down the path of freedom. I had spent 3.5 years beforehand trying to make it as an Entreprenuer (with very limited successes) and never made enough to truly be free. When I got that check, I began investing in my business… DSLR camera, ad campaigns, trainings, seminars and the like… It truly was the first success that built the momentum to begin my transformation.
Since that time, I’ve worked with over 50 businesses helping them achieve bottom line results with their revenue, and branding. From Strategic Coin which is run by an ex Boiler Room Wall Street Shark (with the ethical code to boot), to Research Peptides.co, to Credit Clique and many other small personal brands as well as running my Facebook groups Biz, Tea, and Luxlife with Brad I have helped hundreds of thousands of men and women.
Brief Forward From Brad Holiday: 3-15-18
Re-reading my previous ‘forward.’ I wrote a lot about the emotional components of my past experience of life.
I however, have changed my perspective (as I often do) and now I refuse to live in the past. I glimpse at the past. But now I realize that Everything That Happened Was My Fault.
If I had simply taken complete responsibility for every single detail of my life like a Navy Seal… I would have been able to arm myself daily constantly improving myself.
What This Article IS About:
Through spending 5.5 years working on business and almost 10 in self improvement… I have created this list by asking myself… “What would I tell a 20 year old Brad Holiday?”
This is what I would tell him to do. In order.
How To Fix Your Life For Happiness, Freedom, Wealth, and Adventure! FAST. IN ORDER OF ACTION.
.5 OPTIONAL STEP: MODAFINIL/STIMULANTS
I have a problem focusing and finding the motivation to do the simple disciplines that make me successful at times. When I started, this was especially true. If you find that getting things done with ***URGENCY*** is a problem for you… you should get on modafinil or stimulants. *NOT MEDICAL ADVICE, ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY*
For me… stimulants are the fire starter. I have no problem doing something like this to kick-start my motivation or the motivation of my mentees because whatever minor health sacrifice they pay is entirely worth the momentum and the success they enjoy at the end of it.
1. Dress British, Think Yiddish: Here is what you should do TOMORROW.
a. Shave your face.
b. Sell some of your possessions so that you can afford a small menswear collection of 2 suits, 5 shirts, and 2 dress shoes. Weekend casual wear so you don’t wear out your suits. (Recommendations for products will be below.)
c. Get yourself some cologne from the dollar store. There are actually very good colognes available for 1-3$, you don’t need to spend 60+ to smell good.
d. Buy yourself high quality hygienic products that smell great and are made from herbs and natural ingredients.
Control your spending on everything else… don’t buy luxuries… just the bare essentials… Cook for yourself and try to consciously save as much money as you can for the next few months.
2. Drop Out Of School:
School is a complete waste of time and energy. There is nothing that you need to know in school that you cannot learn on the internet or on the job. College degrees offer you nothing but rather sap you of the most valuable resources we have… Time, energy, and money.
3. Quit Your Job:
THIS list is your job. You must go 100% into this list balls to the wall. If you feel like you can’t execute the tasks on this list with enough ferocity to create wealth… then don’t quit your job right away.
If you don’t feel like you can approach the period without a job with a sense of fierce determination, fear, panic, anger, frustration, and most importantly action… work on your business as a “moonlighter.”
You can work on your business for 2-3 hours per day while you have down time at your job. Do not feel guilty about this. Your job doesn’t care that you are wasting your time trading your time for 18$ an hour!
That HOUR could be spent with someone you love, watching a sunset, doing something magical. To trade it for 18$ is a complete insult to your intelligence and your HUMAN SPIRIT!
You are worth MORE than 18$ a fucking hour!!!!
4. ***MOST IMPORTANT STEP***: Make 10,000$ Per Month Working Under 30 Hrs. Per Week:
This is the engine, the most important thing when it comes to this list. Period. All of your focus is going into making 10,000 dollars with online businesses working only 30 hours per week.
The key is… do this all online so you can have locational freedom.
Here are some ideas.
1. Web service based business: Marketing Firm, Ad Agency, Content Creation Agency, Graphic Design Agency.
2. Affiliate Marketing: Create content to sell other peoples stuff.
This has to be your purpose in life. Until you achieve this goal… you don’t focus on anything else. This is your number 1 goal and I will be able to teach you how to do it or you can follow others guides… It’s easier than college work. I’ll put it to you that way.
I have mentees that under my tutelage have made 5k within the first two weeks of using my system. It is possible to build a business from scratch and get value and clients very quickly and efficiently.
I personally just lost a big client for me and went on to 10x my income and close two very large accounts within a week of losing them using basic focus and entrepreneurial systems that I designed.
Find Clients (proposals, inbound marketing) —> Close Clients —> Serve Clients —> Get Referrals/Upsells/More Business.
Repeat and fill up pipeline with interested clients.
5. Learn To Defend Yourself; Have Muscles.
You will not be able to feel comfortable in your skin unless you can properly defend yourself against attackers. This is a two part process.
1. You Must Lift Weights and Eat A Healthy Bodybuilder Diet
Lifting weights and doing cardio are not going to fight off the bad guys for you per se… but they will give you a healthy pink cheeks, taught youthful skin, a healthy heart, and bulging muscles. No matter what you do, without a healthy body and big strong muscles you will be on the defense… never fully embracing your aggressive, dominant masculine self. You also won’t be able to ‘fuck a woman hard,’ or feel safe walking the street amongst the other bigger more muscular men.
2. You Must Train MMA, Tactical, Weapons
One without the rest is good, but the full scope is necessary if you are going to be truly confident and secure within yourself and your family.
6. Become Fluent In ‘Red Pill’ Ideologies.
There are a few resources I recommend to learn about the red pill.
1. An Ear For Men – Paul Elam
2. Leykis 101/The Tom Leykis Show – Tom Leykis
3. Return Of Kings – Multiple Writers
4. The Rational Male – Rollo Tomassi (Haven’t Personally Read But Many People Tout The Importance Of This Blog)
Red Pill Info is non-negotiable for the adult male in 2018. It was non negotiable in 1991, but we didn’t have as much information and knowledge as we do now.
It’s not a secret that the radical leftist ideologues have had control of the mainstream media, academia, and the family court system for a long time.
They have an unbelievable amount of unchecked power which they use to further their doctrines and belief systems.
The main purpose of their belief systems is to divide and control the masses through fear of being called, ‘racist’, shaming, unfair family courts, kangaroo courts in colleges, fake rape allegations (have a good friend going through this now… stay strong bro,) and much more.
It is ironic that they scream, cry and yell about the oppression of minorities and women… anyone except a white male. When In fact it seems that, everyone except a white male gets a pass in regards to the following.
-Responsibility For Children/Family
-Cheating On Spouse/Lover
-Responsibility For Their Own Bodily Safety (Rape/Assault)
-Responsibility For Solid Arguments Backed By Facts
-Getting Hired For Skills/Value Provided
So on, and so on.
They cry and scream about how they get unfair treatment, yet… they in fact get SPECIAL treatment.
A woman can simply claim that she was raped, and she will be believed and the man will be publicly shamed and have his life torn apart.
A woman can cheat on her husband, and divorce him, taking half of his assets, income with vaginamony and child support, his home, and his self-respect and dignity… with the help of the white knights that are deeply embedded in the American Political System. (Think Joe Biden.)
My advice for men is simple.
1. Become happy in your own life by following the suggestions on this list. (Make money, have great friends, have lots of hobbies, travel, treat yourself well.)
2. Do not commit to a western woman when you are young (before you have reached your dreams). The odds are very high that you will wind up getting screwed over. (Cheated on, time wasted, spend lots of money.)
3. Do not go down the traditional path of, school -> college -> job -> marriage -> kids -> divorce -> repeat -> die. It is dehumanizing and not a happy place for most men.
Listen to and let Leykis, and Elam do their magic by bringing logic and reason into your mind and your relationships.
Hold women accountable.
Expect them to treat you well.
You get what you tolerate, and REST ASSURED, if you tolerate abuse, women WILL give it to you in spades. They have grown up being told that they are, “princesses, daddy’s little girl” so on, and so on. It’s total bullshit.
Women/people will not treat you well if you don’t demand they do.
If you don’t DEMAND respect or leave, you will not get it.
Women have been indoctrinated to disrespect men, view them as disposable, and try to get into their pockets.
If you don’t have your red pill armor on… you will get FLEECED by them.
7. Learn To Talk To Strangers
Although it has metastasized and become a dark shadow of what it once was… PUA was one of the most important and challenging and rewarding things I ever did for myself.
Cold approach pickup, will transform you from socially awkward, shy, and introverted… To a socially gregarious, value giving, fun, positive, sexual, man with great leadership qualities.
There is only only one way that this can go. You have to develop these characteristics if you want to be successful at ‘game’. Without them you will not get the response you are looking for from women.
The cold approach side of girl acquisition is very useful for any and all social interactions. I have utilized concepts like, ‘self amusement,’ ‘leading,’ ‘breaking rapport’ tonality in more in business dealings, relationships, and the technologies have helped me and many other men have large amounts of success by utilizing them.
Learning what women really respond to within the emotions of the moment will teach you several things.
1. Women like loud, fun, boisterous guys.
2. Western Women don’t care about their relationships/commitments for the most part and just like cheap entertainment/sex from a random guy.
3. Women will have sex/kiss VERY QUICKLY.
4. Human beings are emotional not logical when it comes to making most decisions and are easily, easily swayed by a strong frame and social pressure.
5. Cold approach is the best and fastest way to meet beautiful women. Once you get good at it, you will have ‘superpowers’ of meeting and taking home beautiful women.
6. Western Women have become mentally handicapped by endless validation and stimulus. They are essentially totally arrested development. (Mostly.) They will ditch relationships/obligations for the smallest reason or feeling, they are not reliable, they are not trustworthy. You can play upon this within your own ethical code, and come out on top… unfortunately at the expense of other men.
Most men choose to stay ‘blue pill,’ never actually put the work in to get good and skilled at cold approach pickup. For that reason, they believe that their wife/gf doesn’t flirt or cheat in subtle ways every single day, or actually physically betray them behind their backs. But the reality is, is that they do. More often than not.
This is why I have chosen to rely on myself, and I encourage you to.
RELY. ON. YOURSELF. FOR. HAPPINESS.
I rely on people for happiness/reliability in the following order.
2. Proven Awesome Male Friends
3. Proven Reliable Family Members
6. Flakes Of Skin
I’m having a bit of fun here, and obviously being sarcastic.
You can indeed have good relationship with ethical, moral, capable women… the key to it is: FIRST BECOMING HAPPY BY YOURSELF + NOT TAKING ANYONE’S BULLSHIT.
Girl gives me attitude, flaking, anything unacceptable that I wouldn’t tolerate from an employee or a friend.. THEY ARE GONE.
Never give in your self respect.
Now, here is the hacking part.
You can leverage online dating + your social circle and system to have women flock to you.
Automated online dating is a great system.
Having lots of money and fame and leveraging through social media is another great system.
You have to find ways to leverage your success to get women. Don’t rely on cold approach long term. It’s not going to be a reliable system because of the context in which you met the girl.
Here is the hierarchy of preferred contexts to meet girls.
Groupies (girls who chase you down via social media or come to your shows/job) > Introductions Via Social Circle > Warm Approach Social Circle > Cold Approach > Online Dating > Begging/Bribing (I’ve seen it.)
The best thing to do is a combination of the best systems… all based off your success.
Step 1. Become successful
Step 2. Talk to powerful men/cute girls and get invited to parties/events (it will happen naturally if you are successful/cool)
Step 3. Utilize the 1GirlDaily Auto Messenger and set up your profile to be high value. Collect numbers and let the best leads come through.
Step 4. Don’t ever sell out your success/self-esteem/friends/family for pussy/girls.
This is the key to getting your sexual/romantic/intimate needs met without compromise.
7. Fix Your Mindsets With Self Improvement Performance Technologies.
I was raised by liberal, highly dysfunctional parents. Past age 7-8, there were many times where I was the most mature adult in the room. My parents took care of the bills, my dad was highly disciplined work wise, and my parents never did drugs or did any wildly outrageous things. But our family was totally chaotic… I was the black sheep that bore the brunt of my parents aggressions, mental, emotional abuse, neglect, and manipulations.
There were not many happy days in my family. Almost every interaction with my parents was unpleasant… I couldn’t trust them to not betray me (they betrayed me at every turn), nor could I breathe in the house. Everything I did, said, or thought was WRONG and I grew up feeling very small, and not important.
I modeled my dad, who spoke fondly of his mischievousness and drugs he did. In many ways, what he did was unforgivable because he KNEW BETTER. They both did. They lived lives of high luxury, and the divide between my parents living well and getting treated well… and me and my brother was shocking and disturbing.
I have surpressed most of my younger days because they were so miserable… Particularly when I was a teenager. I am truly lucky to have made it out without committing suicide or some horrible crime. If I sound like I am being dramatic (as my family will no doubt try to make me feel,) I am not. These feelings are real and the amount of pain I experienced at the hands of my highly irresponsible and abusive parents was not a joke.
No, I may not be a starving child from Africa, nor do I claim to have had it that bad. But, I have spent my whole entire life, with my parents putting up a facade of prosperity, over the top kindness, over the top spirituality, and living by approximately 0 of those principles.
They lied, they cursed, they physically hurt, they forgot to pick me up from soccer practice, they NEVER apologized, they said truly horrible things to me which I will not repeat (and they and my brother vehemently deny.) It is all so goddamned confusing… the gas lighting… being told that you’re not important and your feelings don’t matter.
I could write a book, and maybe I should about the insanity I experienced with my family. I probably cried every single day of my life from age 10-28 and many days I still do.
I feel so trapped.
I don’t want my parents to die… I’m deathly scared of it so I try to spend as much time as I can with them… Try to make them happy and so forth.
But, for many years I needed their help. They would abuse me whenever I needed them. Being at their mercy in any way is a death sentence… eventually I realized the key to having a successful relationship with them… is to be completely independent of them financially, and emotionally as much as possible.
To need nothing. To simply give, with no desire to ask.
They have put me in positions, where they would financially cripple me without warning, mercilessly. Or cripple me in other ways scholastically, entrepreneurially.
Put anyone and everyone above me.
Cannot tell you the amount of anger I’ve had to swallow, the amount of hurt I’ve had to absorb.
I have spent the last 10 years letting go of the anger, improving myself, and freeing myself from the insanity and toxicity of my parents.
I no longer rely on them for anything financial. I no longer rely on them for advice, or support, or friendship. I never could have before… yet I foolishly continued to believe them when they manipulated and coerced me in. Getting me to admit and talk about what I was working on… only to use it against me.
The point is, is that I am very fucked up emotionally. Like I said, it took me the better part of 10 years, of continuous ACTION, and education, therapy to be able to make sense of my parents and my life.
I had zero guidance from them, literally. I have had to figure out everything in my life by myself. The ‘guidance’ that my parents provided was malicious… meant to hurt. Kicks and barbs when I failed, discrediting my achievements, never praising… ever. Or if they did praise… It was theatrical and fake… only to be ripped away at a key moment.
Career Recommendations: High School Teacher, Police Officer, Barber.
Before Asking For Financial Help: “My son, I am so proud of you and I know that you have overcome so much and done so well for yourself… It’s amazing that you were able to achieve this. (Rapt attention.)” After Asking For Help: “Admit it, you don’t make that much money. You’re making it up!” They didn’t help me. “Maybe being an entrepreneur isn’t for you… maybe get a job… Not everyone can handle the ups and downs… I can offer you a job as a security officer if you’d like. We can start you at 15 an hour.” “Maybe going to school isn’t for you, it’s not for everybody! Not everyone can handle the work.”
The lies, the deceit, the pain of my parents is the single most damaging thing in my life.
I have read hundreds of self development books, practiced hundreds hours of self development, went to seminars, played constant content from various self-help gurus into my ears… in the hopes that one day I would stop feeling like total and complete shit each and every day.
2017, was the year that I began to stop being miserable and started to enjoy my life. I became happy alone, content with my thoughts and who I had become. I started to take control of my life. I started telling people what I expected them to do, and how I expected them to treat me. If they didn’t want to be kind, considerate and good to me… they were ejected from my life.
2017, was the amalgamation of years of study, practice and luck.
Chances are, you are not as fucked up as me.
Chances are, you have less baggage than me.
With that said, you can get a lot further, a lot faster than me.
My best suggestions to you are this… Study and practice as much as you can to control your emotions, optimize your thoughts and actions, learn to schedule your days and improve the way you communicate.
Boundaries, conversational openers, business concepts… they all come from the inner world and once you begin to get your mind right about life or.a person in particular…. That is where things start to get interesting.
8. Diary And Writing:
If you want to auto-correct your mistakes in life, the only way that you can have a clear picture of where you are at any given moment in time, and where you need to go and change… is to diary.
I recommend that you do a combination of writing and video diary-ing.
The video will give you a visual look into where you are. What you are dressed like, how you are acting, how you are speaking, etc.
It is very important to do this, you can document where you are lacking, and what you need to improve on. Sometimes, its not ‘what we say’ but ‘how we say it’ and who we are behind the words… that truly matter.
6. Optimize Your Health and Sleep
7. Take The Red Pill: Tom Leykis + Paul Elam
8. Dive Into Self Help: NLP + Tony Robbins + Psychotherapy Jordan Peterson
9. Diary + Writing
11. Wear Suits + Dress Better