What is this idea of “state” you hear pick up artists talk about in respect to attracting and seducing women?
Why is this something we need to do?
“State” to me in this particular respect is about getting outside of your head or mind and living outside of yourself. You have no fear, you only see possibilities, for fun energy, sexy energy, love energy, to be shared with other girls you want to talk to.
It isn’t something we ‘NEED’ to do in order to approach, certainly there are some guys who can approach many different girls with no attachment to the result without state. However, state is going to be the controlling factor determining whether or not we do the initial approach as well as the type of interaction we’re going to have.
In other words… When we are having fun, being free, being expressive, physically escalating, leading… we have far better results than when we are introverted, quiet, shy, in our heads, afraid of approaching or escalating or leading.
We get into state consistently, reliably in respect to picking up girls by DOING the action of approaching girls.
Nothing will force you to be more present, more aware of what is going on NOW than going to talk to a stunningly attractive woman that you just met and creating attraction with her. There’s almost nothing that does that more reliably for me than that.
Once you desensitize yourself to the initial approach anxiety through following my approach anxiety system… you can reliably get yourself into state each and every time by doing 1-2 ‘throwaway sets’ where you simply throw yourself into set and talk simply for the sake of getting yourself into a more extroverted/player state.