Ah yes, the old Alpha Male vs Beta Male Paradigm.
I have my thoughts and reservations about using the term Alpha, to describe myself or others.
I’m just a man. A simple, straightforward, guy. I have my challenges, I have my strengths.
But I also choose to eat a clean diet, train hard, produce content constantly, run my digital agency Life Mtkg & Mda and mentorship program, 1GirlDaily, LuxLife, actively do self improvement, and generally try to discipline myself to be better always.
“I set a standard for myself to do more than anyone else could possibly ever expect from me.”
An alpha male, or sheepdog. Is a provider, a protector, chooses to be kind, but is fully capable of mayhem and destruction.
He is strong, in all aspects. Which allows him to choose the ‘light’ and kindness or compassion over malevolence and destruction.
Bullies, do not fuck with me as much anymore.
When I was young, they certainly did. All the time. Bullying was a part of my every day life from Kindergarten all the way until last year working for a High Powered Wall Street Executive. (I was the director of marketing for Strategic Coin, a now multi-million dollar company.)
Whether it was being slapped in the face in the street by the guy who did my tattoo in front of all my friends (after we had a little scuffle inside his apartment days earlier) or being pulled down the stairs or over the bus seat by my hair I dealt with a lot of it.
I must have projected my fear, I must have been too small and weak, I must have been too much of a burden on other people.
I hung out with the athletic kids, I was on sports teams, I excelled at sports and was very competitive and strong, with good hand eye co-ordination. However, I didn’t step up and challenge myself to compete and win at higher levels, and stayed weak for the earlier part of high school.
Later on in high school, I opted to obsessively work out (ineffectively but still looked good), work 60 hours a week washing dishes or carrying golf bags, and sometimes peddling a smelly green flower.
I gained a feared, and stronger reputation due to the reputation I built. I attracted some women, and respect, and fear, but it didn’t last because it completely relied on my reputation.
I always wanted to be respected, taken seriously, and get my shit together so that I could take care of myself. I always wanted to be able to fight off big, strong, men who had terrorized me in my younger years.
I didn’t ever put two and two together… I didn’t see that if I just followed a program, and stuck with it I would have been able to beat those bullies back, and my life would have been completely different.
I am going to chunk out in big slices, what you’ll need to work on and why if you are dealing with bullying.
*Does Not Matter If The Bullying Is Physical, Verbal, Emotional, or A Mental Threat. These Steps Work.*
Get Your Body Right:
Confidence comes from preparation.
Get your body lean, flexible, muscular, vibrant, and healthy.
Do cardio. I’d recommend training to run a 5k.
Eat a Bulletproof Diet. It’s the best one out there as of current. Organic veg, Grass Fed Beef, Wild Caught Salmon, Brain Octane Oil, Collagen Protein if you need a quick shopping list.
Drink 4-6L of filtered water with lemon daily.
If you are strong, healthy, vibrant, cardiovascularly fit, flexible, strong and skilled in violence. Nobody will be able to fuck with you.
Get Strong. Be able to bench, squat, deadlift, row, shrug, kettlebell, farmers walk, with heavy weights if you have to.
Learn Brazillian Jiu Jitsu. Don’t quit. Roll every single day. If you spend the day learning to rip apart the human body limb by limb, and have those techniques applied on your newbie white-belt self…. you will be far less afraid of anyone or anything they can do to you.
Get Submitted Regularly. Eventually You’ll Be Able To Submit People and Feel The Power.
Learn Muay Thai. Because nothing says ‘leave me alone’ more clearly than a knee to the orbital socket.”
Learn tactical systems that deal with fear and stress and real life scenarios.
Do Self Improvement Tapes:
Anthony Robbins Hour Of Power/Personal Power are amazing, and if you are struggling with bullying. Do them, they will help you reframe your bully or situation in an empowering manner.
Build A Business Or Work On Business Skills:
There is no single easier way to turn a bully into a chump than to be making his yearly pay, in a week.
Where focus goes, energy flows.
Want to get good at business?
Spend time with it.
That’s all for now guys!