When I am in a social situation such as gaming girls, or speaking to prospects through networking, or speaking to a client on the phone… I have two states I am regularly trying to access and bring to the conversation.
- Certainty: A feeling of confidence in that what you are saying and what you think about a situation (your frame) is the right one… you can deliver your communications with a level of clarity and intensity that will allow people to follow you instead of feeling like they can’t trust you when you are being un-certain. Uncertain is wavering, unclear, indecisive, not potent, not intentional whereas certain feels the opposite very direct and intentional and strong.
- Positive Assumptions: I always assume the best about the people I am around. I try to feel in my body that they are old friends, trustworthy, loveable, family etc etc. There is a very specific reason for this. Whatever I feel about this person is going to translate in my communication. If I feel the person I’m speaking to is not worth my time to talk to… I’m not going to communicate and influence effectively. If I feel that the person I’m speaking to is amazing and I love them as an old friend… they will likely feel the same about me. “Everyone is my friend!” is a common frame I tend to keep in mind on my nights out/calls.
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